I have been using dating services for years. I have had some good experiences and some bad experiences. My best experience was about 10 years ago when I met the man of my dreams. We dated for a while, and it was the best experience of my life. Then we married and we were blissful for a while, but ended up divorced. For simplicity, let's just say it was a "blended family" issue.
But enough about me. The reason I developed this blog is to talk about the people who are currently "out there" trying to get a date.
Let's start with men. I can give men some advice about writing their profile for a dating service. Where or where do I start. Well, I'll start with today. Today I went on Match.Com to search for a date. Men, let me help you out. Here's some advice:
1) By all means, post a picture. You will get no responses without a picture. Would you go to a department store and buy a sweater you couldn't SEE? NO. Women are NOT going to date or even become interested in a man they can't SEE.
2) Post a GOOD picture. Post the best picture you can find, or have made. If you post a blurry picture, or a picture that's so far away you can't tell who/what's in the picture, it's the same as not posting a picture.
3) Do not post a picture of yourself with your arm around some other woman (even if it's a daughter or your mother, don't do it!!) If you post a picture of yourself with another woman, it tells me she is either still in your life of was not long ago. Not interested.
4) Don't post pictures of your grandchildren. If you think that women will be impressed that you're a grandfather, that may be true. But there is too much exploitation of children in this world, and you shouldn't put your grandchildren in that position. Besides that, if you ever post a picture of someone, you should have their permission to post that picture.
5) DO NOT post a picture of yourself with a DEAD DEER. Or a DEAD FISH. Women usually don't care that you're a hunter or fisherman. Dead deer and dead fish do not impress women.
6) Learn to spell, and have your profile checked by someone else before you post it!
7) Don't post in your profile how much you hate women. If you do, why would you want to date one?
8) Don't post that you don't like fat women. If you don' like fat women, keep it to yourself.
9) Don't post a big long list about "what you require". No woman can live up to that list, and no woman wants to date someone that arrogant.
10) Don't flex your muscles in your picture, and don't show too much skin. If a woman is going to be impressed by your physique, that will happen after she meets you. But if you flex your muscles in the picture, that will probably just intimidate women who are not body-builders.
11) Give women a chance. The woman doesn't have to be perfect. If you are looking for perfection, you are probably going to be a lonely old man.
